People on today’s list sure have, and they decided to make their interactions public. They shared the text messages they exchanged with the so-called “nice girls” on a subreddit dedicated to exactly that, showing that for some people, being nice is nothing but an act. Scroll down to find netizens’ cases of dealing with “nice girls” in the wild, and see for yourself just how troublesome it can get. Below you will also find Bored Panda’s interview with an assistant professor of health communication at the University of Connecticut, Dr. Elizabeth Hintz, who was kind enough to answer a few of our questions on “nice girls”. Discussing this type of “nice people”, Dr. Elizabeth Hintz pointed out that the “nice girls” concept comes from the “nice guy” concept, which is “something that’s generally [widespread] within the manosphere because it perpetuates harmful ideas about relationships with women (for example, being nice means being entitled to intercourse).” In a recent interview with Bored Panda, the expert noted that this phenomenon is a part of the broader prevalence of ‘men’s rights’ discourse online, which reduces people to overly simplistic and often evolutionary arguments for what constitutes a good relationship. “It’s important to keep in mind that this ‘nice girl,’ ‘nice guy’ phenomenon comes from that system of meaning,” she emphasized. In Hintz’s opinion, social media spreads these harmful ideas about what makes a person valuable or what makes a partner valuable. “These ideas become more normative when they are spread around via the internet or social media.” Take dating apps, for instance; some people spend hours on polishing their account to make a good first impression. After all, the potential match only has a few pictures and a brief comment to browse before making their mind up on which way to swipe. But while it might attract a so-called match, the pictures and the description can only get a person so far. In a piece for BBC, Princeton University Professor of Psychology Alexander Todorov, author of Face Value: The Irresistible Influence of First Impressions, pointed out that pictures might not be worth much when the people start talking. At the end of the day, it’s what they have to say that’s likely to make or break the success of the relationship. “The only way to tell whether two people will really like each other – they have to talk. People don’t make good predictions for compatibility without talking,” Prof. Todorov told BBC. While that doesn’t necessarily mean that they are, they might be somewhat “addicted to drama”. A psychologist and author of Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others, Dr. Scott Lyons, suggested that there are seven signs that might give away that someone simply can’t live a life without drama. As he points out in a piece for CNBC News, the signs entail them feeling a sense of urgency, using exaggerated language, craving to be the center of attention, retelling stories with unnecessary intensity, focusing on the negative or exhilarating elements of other people’s lives, being way too preoccupied with—or even stuck in—their own story, and feeling a lack of control. Follow Bored Panda on Google News! Follow us on Flipboard.com/@boredpanda! Please use high-res photos without watermarks Ooops! Your image is too large, maximum file size is 8 MB.
