This lady, for example, had her siblings go off on her because she wouldn’t help them look after their kids, change diapers, and otherwise clean them up. She told them a resounding ‘no,’ but with only her husband and her father on her side, she started wondering: maybe she was being a jerk.
Family gatherings often mean kids, lots of kids
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This woman got the wrath of her siblings during a family gathering when she refused to help take care of their children
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People who are child-free by choice don’t want to babysit others’ kids
Share icon Image credits: Huy Tran (not the actual photo) Parents often take advantage of their childless friends and family members by guilting them to take care of their kids. Many think that because they don’t have children, they have all the time in the world to help them out. While it’s understandable from a human standpoint – giving help to those who need it – it’s not actually so simple. It’s not because child-free people don’t like kids. Many enjoy their company and would gladly hang out with children. “I’m child-free by choice, so no, I don’t want to look after your kids,” columnist Jana Hocking writes for News.com.au. “Something happens once they start having kids. We singletons become less friends, and more servants to you and your children.” People often make women feel like there’s something wrong with them if they don’t want children or don’t enjoy spending time with someone else’s kids. Lucy Rimalower, M.A., M.F.T., explains that many women struggle with these prejudices. “Among my clients, the demographic that experiences the most pressure and anxiety around making the child-free decision is cis straight women,” she told in an interview for KCRW. “They’ve been hearing their whole lives that being a mother is a moral imperative. It is a requirement to be a complete woman.”
As sexist stereotypes prevail, childcare is still considered to be a woman’s job
Share icon Image credits: cottonbro studio (not the actual photo) The year is 2024, and still, somehow childcare and even babysitting are still viewed as a woman’s job. Research shows that only 2.9% of babysitters are male. If that’s the statistic for professionals, what can women expect when they’re at family gatherings? Experts say that the stereotype that women are innate carers is still prevalent in our culture. And it doesn’t pertain to only babies and children; we expect women to take care of the elderly, their disabled family members, etc. Research shows that 81% of all caregivers are in fact, women. Women are also socialized to be carers from an early age. One interesting study looked at teenagers, both male and female, who worked babysitting jobs. The researchers concluded that families don’t consider girls employees and ask them to do more tasks without payment than boys. Parents would ask the girl babysitters to do housework, cooking, and chaffeuring, but wouldn’t compensate them for it. They would also ask them to stay late after work to discuss the children’s day – all things they didn’t ask of boys. What’s more, when the boys asked for a raise, families viewed them as more competent. When girls did the same, parents saw them as less likable and manipulative. Miriam Forman-Brunell writes in her book “Babysitter: An American History” that babysitting developed as a method of socialization. Teenage girls got some autonomy through “a job” while maintaining traditional gender roles. One might think: why did the OP’s husband not get demands to change diapers and look after the kids at the family get-together? They only expect their sister to do it because she doesn’t have any of her own and, because she’s a woman, magically knows how to do it better.
People in the comments agreed that parents should be taking care of their kids and not expect others to do so
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