What’s worse is if the relationship is in its early stages and one partner can’t stop getting caught up in their past insecurities. That’s probably when you know things are doomed. This is what happened to one couple who were in a short-lived 3-week relationship. More info: Reddit
Guy wonders if he’s overreacting for thinking of breaking up with his GF of 3 weeks after she kept questioning him about his income and divorce status
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Divorced guy who dated a woman for 3 weeks said that she often told him he was being defensive about his divorce or asked why he was still living with his brother
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After a lot of pestering, he decided to show her his divorce certificate, but was not comfortable displaying his tax return; he even wondered if he should end the relationship
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The poster also mentioned that despite constantly clarifying everything with her, she always felt he was being “dishonest”
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Being faced with these kinds of doubts and having to prove yourself again and again to your partner can be exhausting to cope with
The poster is a 32-year-old man who has been divorced since 2020. He has been in the dating game for 1.5 years and was in two serious relationships. None of his previous partners tried to probe about his money or divorce. But, when he began dating a 29-year-old woman, he realized that she would often get too serious and begin questioning him. She found it sketchy that no public information was available about his divorce and kept telling him that he was becoming defensive about it. She even questioned why he would consider himself financially stable if he was rooming with his 25-year-old brother. The woman stated that she did not want to play games and needed to be with someone who she could spend her life with. The problem with doubting and questioning your partner like this is that it might usually stem from some kind of insecurity. According to Verywell Mind, “insecurity impacts your relationship by creating an imbalance. You become more preoccupied with what your partner is not providing and instead demand reassurance or validation for your insecurities.” Research on insecurities in relationships shows that one partner’s internalized negative thoughts can get turned outward onto the other partner. This can manifest in jealousy, rage, and even paranoia. When that happens, it can create a difficult dynamic and lead to arguments. The other partner might feel confused and lost in the relationship. This is exactly what the poster felt every time he tried to clear things up with his girlfriend. Whenever he told her that other people did not question him about his divorce, she would say that he was being a gaslighter. Regarding his tax returns, commenters felt that maybe the woman wanted to know how much money he was making so that she could settle with him. But he clarified things in the comments, saying, “she works in finance. I’m assuming makes more than me.” Share icon Image credits: cottonbro studio (not the actual photo) The guy shared that he was going through a mental struggle about whether to end the relationship or not. He felt that they had a good connection, but all her questions reminded him of his ex, which was a red flag. Later, he ended the relationship due to encouragement from netizens. He clarified that the thing he was most bothered by was the fact that she felt he was being dishonest regardless of how much he tried to set the record straight. According to Harley Therapy, “sometimes we think we are doubting the partner we are with, but really we are assuming certain things about our present relationship based on past experience.” This is probably what was going on in his ex-girlfriend’s mind as well. It’s likely that she brought a lot of past baggage along that caused her to doubt the man. A good relationship can only thrive if both partners trust each other and communicate. When someone doubts their significant other, they should let themselves be vulnerable and share their insecurities with the other person. This can help strengthen their connection, and both partners will feel heard and understood. The problem with this 3-week relationship is that the doubts started coming up too soon. Despite the poster’s reassurances, his ex-girlfriend was not ready to accept any of it. People let the guy know that the woman’s actions were not okay and that he was right to consider it a red flag. Why do you think she was so concerned with knowing his divorce and income status? Share your thoughts in the comments.
Netizens found it hilarious that the woman had mentioned that she didn’t want to play games yet she was the only one playing games
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