The members of the r/AskReddit community recently shared their thoughts on all of the things that people don’t fully understand until they happen to them. Scroll down to read their thoughts.
Bored Panda got in touch with licensed professional counselor Rodney Luster, Ph.D., who shed some light on empathy. You’ll find his insights below. Dr. Luster is the founder of Inspirethought and the host of the ‘More Than a Feeling’ blog on Psychology Today.
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“Empathy has several aspects to it. The first has something to do with ’lived phenomenology,’” he explained to Bored Panda, meaning an individual who “has lived through something similar may have more ‘relatedness’ sociologically and psychologically to the person who is perhaps describing an event they went through.”
He continued: “This can be seen in some recent research where nurses report high levels of clinical empathy in their day-to-day interactions with patients. Their exposure to a variety of things makes this more feasible and accessible.”
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“In the real world, empathic feedback is necessary for the empathizer to fully relate,” Dr. Luster said. He added that, otherwise, the distractions he mentioned earlier may greatly influence how a person responds. “Empathic feedback helps transform information in sensorimotor regions of the brain.”
We also asked Dr. Luster about someone ‘practicing’ to be more empathetic if they feel like they have a hard time connecting with others. He explained that this is directly related to empathizer feedback: “That aspect we require to encode and decode from our environment is needed, and when lacking, makes it harder to empathize.”
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Dr. Luster gave an example of how this works. “If, for instance, I had trouble empathizing with someone from another religion, another generation, etc., instead of working off of any bias I may have because of bias-based elements I have taken in from my life, I might try learning a bit more about that person, why they believe what they believe, what is it like growing up in their generation, etc.,” he said.
“By embracing some cognitive flexibility, and becoming the listener who asks good questions rather than opinionated or judgmental questions, we open the gate to adding to our empathy box. Therapists must practice this ability before ever entering a counseling session. We often do the work on ourselves well before therapy with others so that we are open and allow trust and safety to enhance the sessions for clients. But this is not exclusive to us, and anyone can begin to practice this kind of adaptive flexibility. It’s not easy, but with practice, empathy can begin to grow.”
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Most of us are hardwired for kindness, but it’s not exactly clear how. WebMD explained that human beings have specialized ‘mirror neurons’ in their brains. They activate when we see and feel emotions. Researchers believe that it’s these neurons that create empathy. However, other scientists think that empathy is purely a construct of our intelligence.
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Its counterpart is cognitive empathy, wherein we can intellectually understand how someone is feeling. Unlike emotional empathy, cognitive empathy can take time to cultivate and is more of a skill. It centers around learning how to identify emotions and behaviors.
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One part of being empathetic is staying curious about the people and world around you. Asking questions, getting to know folks, deepening your relationships with them despite superficial differences—that’s how you gradually improve your empathy.
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What are your thoughts on the topic, dear Pandas? Do you think it’s possible to be empathetic about all possible things even without having experienced them? Or do you think that some events are so fundamentally deep and incomprehensible that even the kindest people in the world might not fully ‘get’ them? Do you consider yourselves empathetic people? Feel free to share your opinions in the comments section, at the bottom of this post.
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