This lady was asked to take care of her grandkids, but she couldn’t stop the older one from swearing
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And their conflict led to a physical altercation
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Grandparents often don’t get the recognition they deserve when it comes to childcare
Susan Stiffelman, who is a licensed and practicing psychotherapist and marriage and family therapist, says it isn’t okay for kids to treat their grandparents with disrespect, and it’s unhealthy for them to get away with it. To address the problem, Stiffelman offers a three-step approach:
Synch everyone up with your expectations, but be flexible. Parents, grandparents, and kids should have a conversation where they can clearly outline — perhaps even on paper — the general expectations for everything from homework to bedtime when grandma and grandpa are in charge. They should also discuss the fact that parents expect the kids to cooperate with their grandparents and do what they’re asked without making a big fuss, even if the grandparents might do things a little differently than they do.Parents should make sure that the grandparents know they have permission to be more assertive with their children. Sometimes, grandparents are too soft on their grandkids because they adore them so much and want to be adored back. They can, indeed, be softer when the parents are around and in command, but in their absence, grandparents are entitled to maintain a sense of authority. Stiffelman highlights that kids need to know who is in charge.Grandparents have a special relationship with their grandchildren. They love to indulge, spoil, and let them get away with things that their parents don’t. And Stiffelman believes there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s part of family fun. But because of that, parents should make a conscious effort to help grandparents come up with ways to step into a more authoritative role with their children.
“Children do best when they are raised in a tribe, with healthy attachments to a number of caring adults,” the psychotherapist adds. “But it’s important that [grandparents are reminded] that it’s in their grandchildren’s best interest to treat people well — including close family.”
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