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According to u/Kitkatcrusher, there has to be a “give and take” in relationships, where one person takes care of the kids while the other recharges.
“I try taking the kids to the park during the weekends while the wife gets the morning to herself, or I put them to bed while she goes to see friends. She really helps with watching our girls, too, when I want to go do a quick 9-hole round, and I try booking an early tee time and try to be done by 9 am to help with the kids,” he opened up to us.
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“I know it’s tempting to complete tasks while the wife and kids go out, but time will be just as well spent if we take it and do something for ourselves…”
Meanwhile, Samantha, the creator of the witty ‘Walking Outside in Slippers’ blog, shared her personal thoughts on how partners can support each other when they’re feeling overwhelmed with responsibilities.
“I am through the woods a bit on this because my kids are now 8 and 12, and not babies or toddlers. It’s especially hard to carve out alone time when you have a toddler following you into the bathroom. But I think cutting back on the parent guilt and doing what you have to do to keep your sanity is totally acceptable. Whether that is letting your kid have some extra screen time or putting them in a stroller and browsing Target again,” she told Bored Panda.
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Samantha pointed out that a brisk walk can be wonderful for mental health. “I am also a proud working mom, and I enjoy my time spent at the office, out working away from my kids.”
She added that there’s no place for parental guilt. “It’s time we kick that guilt to the curb for good. Our kids have needs, but so do we. If we are not feeling good, we’re not at our parenting best anyway. And what even is parenting best? We are all just doing what we can to raise good people. That is more than enough.”
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Not to oversimplify things, but if you need some time to be alone, you need to tell your partner. If you’re exhausted, tell your partner. If you’re saddled with an unfair amount of chores, talk to them. If you feel like you’re going mad because you haven’t left the house in a week and haven’t met any friends for a month—yup, you guessed it—tell your partner how you really feel.
Sure, it might be awkward and embarrassing to admit that you need a bit of ‘time off’ from parenting. You might feel guilty admitting that you also want to do the other things that you love and to meet the other folks in your life you care about. But a parent isn’t just a parent.
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The key here is to make your partner feel supported no matter how they choose to spend that time. They can nap, do woodworking, exercise, paint, or read. They can play video games, binge TV shows, joke around with their high school pals, or go on solitary hikes in the woods. They can volunteer, visit museums, or spend their time learning a new language. It doesn’t matter what they do, so long as they’re not made to feel guilty.
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If you’re burned out, exhausted, and constantly on edge, how loving of a person do you think you’ll be? You don’t want to end up resenting your nearest and dearest. You owe it to yourself to take care of your health. And part of that means being ‘selfish’ to do some things alone.
We all need to recharge our social batteries from time to time, no matter if we’re extroverts, ambiverts, or introverts. Meanwhile, your kids don’t need to be micromanaged. Let them make some mistakes on their own so they develop some independence and confidence.
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You probably won’t find a perfect 50/50 split of chores and childcare in any relationship. What matters is that the division of responsibilities makes sense for the couple. If someone feels like they’re doing most of the work without any appreciation while their partner lazes about, then there’s an issue. But, again, open communication solves that problem.
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We’d genuinely love to hear your thoughts on the topic. If you have a spare moment, let us know what you think in the comments.
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