Just like the original poster (OP) who reconnected with a friend, but at the same time, she had a secret fling with that friend’s ex. However, when things started to get serious between them, she wondered whether dating him was the right thing to do. More info: Mumsnet
The poster of this story got divorced, after which she started going out happily and enjoyed her new life
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Recently, she also reconnected with an old friend who turned into a good acquaintance for her
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The friend broke up with her ex about a year ago, and now she is happily dating someone else, meanwhile, the poster met her ex and had a secret fling with him
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After a while things got serious and he said that he wanted to take the poster out on proper dates, and she also started liking him
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He also made her laugh and she felt they clicked and were intensely attracted to each other, so she sought advice online whether dating him would be the right thing to do
In today’s story, the poster tells us that she got divorced and started going out and enjoying her new life. She even reconnected with an old friend who became a good acquaintance. Now, she gives us a little background about the friend. She was in an on-and-off relationship with her ex-boyfriend and broke up a year ago. However, now she seems to be serious with another person she started seeing 7 months ago and also, pretty happy. And this is where things take a different turn for OP. One day, she was at a pub and started chatting with her friend’s ex, and this slowly developed into a fling, which they kept a secret. But after a while, things started getting pretty serious between them and the guy wanted to take her out on proper dates where people they knew would see them. OP also informed us that even she had started really liking him. He’s a fun person who makes her laugh. Plus, she feels that they just connected and share a very intense attraction towards each other. Probably feeling confused, she went online and asked netizens whether it would be appropriate to date him. After reading her story, the folks online were divided in their opinions. Some said that she should definitely go for it as she shouldn’t have to stop her happiness for someone else’s opinion. They also said that if she was a good friend, she would surely understand the poster’s situation and that she didn’t do it on purpose. Share icon Image credits: Priscilla Du Preez (not the actual picture) However, some said that the fact that she was asking other people’s opinions about it showed that she knew it was wrong and shouldn’t go ahead with it. As per Marriage.com, “Dating a friend’s ex may lead to trust issues, prompting questions about the integrity of relationships. The prospect of betrayal may emerge, stirring uncertainties about loyalty and friendship. When contemplating such connections, it’s vital to address trust concerns openly and honestly, fostering transparent communication.” While people understood what a difficult position she was in, they also tried to look at things from the friend’s perspective. They felt that she might feel betrayed by OP if she found out about this, causing her distress. When they asked if the ex had broken up with the friend, OP clarified that it was actually the other way around. Psychology Today states, “People have expectations of friendship, including support, respect, loyalty, reciprocity, or connection. A sense of betrayal exists if the expectations of friendship are violated. When a friend betrays us, it can cause a range of negative emotions, including shock, loss, and grief.” Looks like what the netizens said might be true. They advised the poster that she should have a transparent conversation with her friend before jumping into anything. She would feel better if she found out about it from the poster rather than a third person. They also told OP to handle this carefully as it’s such a delicate matter and might have an adverse impact on her friend. And even though people had divided opinions, they all agreed about one thing: that having this conversation with her friend is crucial. Do you agree with their verdict? Also, what would you do if you were in OP’s shoes? Just scroll down and feel free to jot down your thoughts in the comments below!
Netizens were divided as some told her to go for it while some said that it might ruin their friendship
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