In a candid online thread, the women of the r/AskWomen online community opened up about the scariest reactions that they’ve ever seen from men they rejected. Scroll down to see just how dark the bad side of dating can get.
Bored Panda reached out to the person who started the important discussion, Jhené. She was kind enough to share her thoughts on how bystanders can help someone in trouble, as well as what it would take for men to become aware of their toxic behavior. You’ll find the insights she shared with us below.
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“People tend to get scared or feel the need to not intervene. When signs of harassment are present, you have to be aware and ready to help. Something as simple as calling out the person’s nasty behavior can be enough to scare them away,” she said.
“If your or her safety is at risk, don’t hesitate to call the police. Always think about how you’d want someone to be there for you in a situation like that.”
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“I believe that they have to be called out on toxic behavior. You must communicate to them that what they’re doing is making you uncomfortable and ask them to stop.”
She continued: “One must put their shoes in the feet of others who have been abused or hurt. How would they feel if their mother, sister, aunt, or grandmother were to be harassed and left feeling helpless?”
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However, someone who has serious self-esteem and entitlement issues is likely to take any rejection as a personal attack on them. They cannot fathom not getting something they want. Instead of accepting the rejection, they might lash out, resort to threats or stalking, or try to change their romantic interest’s opinion through manipulation. This is a nightmare scenario if you’re the one who’s being pursued.
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In the meantime, if you’re still feeling unsafe and want to be more empowered, you can always sign up for self-defense classes. You may also want to consider getting some equipment to deter any assailants (e.g., pepper spray if it’s legal in your country). Having the support of a strong community of family, friends, and neighbors is also going to help you feel safe(r).
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If you’re feeling up to it, feel free to share your experiences in the comment section at the bottom of this post.
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